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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happens to DD's nanny on a regular basis.  I personally think it's completely normal that a parent walk up to a nanny who takes excellent care of her charge and ask if she's looking for a job; you never know if the nanny is part-time and looking for more hours, or if she will be leaving her job soon because the child is going into daycare, for example.  Having said that, it REALLY BUGS ME when it's neighbors from our building (we live in a smallish building of 60 units) or friends of theirs who approach DD's nanny and they do so in our building (so they know that she works for one of the residents).  Our nanny is almost FT (30 hours/week) and is free to take extra work, but if she ever asked me about working for one of our neighbors, I would say Please NO.  We have no family members in the area so next to DH and me, the nanny is DD's family, she is Mommy #2.  I can't imagine how traumatized DD would be to see her 2nd mommy taking care of another child and unable to come to her when she needs or wants her.  We have a playroom and courtyard where all the building kids play so it would be inevitable that DD see her nanny in that situation.[/quote]

Wow, that is messed up.  
1: Your nanny is an employee, not Mommy #2.  Because that is reality, it is not a disservice to your kid to witness evidence that bears it out.  If that would indeed be traumatic for your child, then you need to work on her grasp of reality.
2: You do not own your nanny.  If you want to control how she spends every one of your child's waking hours, you can pay for those hours.
3: In discouraging those in your neighborhood from asking your nanny to babysit, you are making it harder and less convenient for her to pick up extra hours, which she likely needs, given that you only offer 30hrs per week.  If you cared about your nanny as an actual person (rather that as a possession), you should be thrilled that she is able to find work in your building since it will minimize the time she spends driving to another job before/after work and makes it possible for her to work for you longer term.[/quote]

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