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[quote=Anonymous]Agree with the PP who said that peer support/peer pressure play a significant role in rematch.  I've been a host mom for 4.5 years now, on our 4th AP, 5th is about to arrive.  I see rematch waves - both within a family and in the surrounding area.

They can egg each other on: we had a group of APs at our house, they were discussing one AP's situation.  AP was in a new host family, and clearly there was communication disconnect.  HF needed to give AP a clear advance schedule - instead it was a kind of play it by ear daily situation.  While some APs were approaching this with good advice ("you need to talk to HP"), others were like ("that's wrong! you should demand a schedule, it's your right! and if you don't get it, rematch!"), ratcheting up the conflict.  This was a brand-new AP, just arrived, and I'd heard an out-all-night-drinking story about this AP (not on duty), so undoubtedly there was more to the story.

Another thing I've seen is a HF who previously had several successful matches go through a wave of rematches - 3 in a row.  Partly bad luck, but also I think new AP replacing the rematching AP is oriented to throw in the towel easier/faster, especially if there is overlap.  For this reason (and others), I avoid overlapping new and old APs.  Clean break is best.

For the record, I've had 4 APs in 4.5 years.  No "rematches" but one mutually-agreed early departure.  
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