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[quote=Anonymous]We've had the same nanny for almost six years, and have had a number of systems as our needs changed.

It's important to note that I never have nor would I ever expect our nanny to use her own money and be reimbursed. My feelings about this relate to my own work experience. In my own job, I've been asked to front expenses, save receipts and be reimbursed. Sometimes, it takes awhile for paperwork to be processed and get my reimbursement check. While I can absorb that wait, financially, I don't like it and I don't like the idea of subjecting our nanny to a process I find annoying in my own work life.

Anyway.

When my DD was very young, we had an envelope with cash and our nanny would take what she needed and then leave the receipt in the envelope. I replenished the cash every week. In the beginning, I'd check receipts carefully to have a clear idea of how much money to leave in the envelope.

Then we had a situation where our nanny didn't take enough cash on a particular day and had to use her own cash. She wasn't angry and I immediately reimbursed her, but I brought up the idea that maybe we could find a better system.

So then we went to prepaid cards, which, oddly became more work than was necessary for both of us.

We sat down again and talked about getting her her own credit card, in her name, tied to my account. I kept a separate account I used to pay the cc every month. She chose the card, and because she loves to travel, she wanted one that collected miles. All the miles belong to her. By this time, we both understood what the card would be used for. Every month, I could easily review the purchases. For awhile, I did. Now, years later, I don't. I trust nanny's judgment about purchases and I've never questioned any purchase.

This has worked best for us. Like a PP, there are times I tell our nanny to do something special for herself, like a dinner out or a massage or whatever, and to please use the card. It's an easy way to give a random bonus. Our nanny regularly goes above and beyond and I love having an easy way to thank her.

She has never abused my trust with the cc, or in any other way, so this system is the one we use now and will use going forward, unless she has a problem with it, in which case we will sit down again and work it out.[/quote]

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