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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm just going through this with our nanny now and it's very difficult.  We want to help her (in a jam w/ car repairs) but we don't want to establish a dangerous precedent.  She doesn't have friends or family here to support her, she doesn't manage her money well, but we care for her and want to support her.

It can be a very difficult line to draw, with lots of subjective issues on all sides.[/quote]

the fact that she does not manage her money well would be a deal braker for me. one thing is a one time help to a financially responsible person who has a problem, one thing is helping somebody who has a problem as a consequence of her irresponsible behavior.  a lot of nannies on this forum had said that they have been working for years and never ever asked their employers for loans, while OP's nanny, making over $4000 a month, can't apparently live without extra thousands of dollars in loans.   the reality is that your nanny does have friends and family samewhere, but they chose not to help her.  she is an adult, and she made bad financial choices. if you bail her out, she will never learn, and she will lean on you again next time she has a crises, because she is learning that she can do that. you are the easy way out, instead of a combination of 1. paying with a CC or getting a personal loan, and paying it back dutifully every month by the deadline with interests, or 2) working extra jobs, in the evenings, weekends to make extra money, or 3) selling jewelry or other stuff she may have, or 4) staying without the car (as long it is not needed for her job) and take the long commute by public transportation. [/quote you not even cleaning your ass very well  you think you can help others you're running your mouth for sure  loser  :D [/quote]

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