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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am been the nanny for a wonderful little boy for the last two years, since his birth.  I have been a truly great nanny (even if you don't believe me, please accept this as true for argument sake).  Beyond just being a great nanny, I have a bond with my charge and I love him more than I ever thought possible to love a child not my own.  And I have sacrificed to stay this child's nanny - passing up far more lucrative positions and even taking a second weekend job just to stay his nanny.

Just a few minutes ago, the parents told me they are putting him in daycare.  THis has been in the works - the preparation for daycare for awhile.  When they told me, I was stunned.  They both said that I was fantastic and that their child would not be the great and smart kid he is had it not been for me.

I lost it.  First, all day daycare is a huge mistake for this particular boy at this time in his life.  Second, because they just sprung it on me.

I don't know what to do now.  [b]I said my peace and told them my truth - that I have never been more disappointed  in two people in my entire life. [/b]I walked in and kissed my beautiful charge and told him that I loved him. I asked them to send my last paycheck and walked out.  Clearly, the parents did not expect me to be done that moment and they have no care for their son until daycare starts.  But I don't know what to do.

I cannot see spending the next two weeks (or however long they had in mind) crying every time I look at him.  How would I go around to our usual story times, music class, parent & me, etc when everyone knows us and explain that I will no longer be this fantastic and polite little boy's nanny anymore...

What is the right thing to do?  I honestly don't know.  THis is my first longterm nanny job (although I have been a preschool teacher for twenty years so I am obviously not a kid).

I am sick about this.  Please - someone - tell me what to do.  I know I got too attached.  I know I sacrificed far too much to stay his nanny - but I thought I was appreciated.

BTW, they are only putting him in daycare to save money.  [/quote]

Have you considered that this statement might not bode well when it comes time for a reference? I know you are upset and sad to leave, but this was not a professional (or kind) thing to say. No job lasts forever -- if you decide to stay in the nanny profession, it might be wise figure out why you become so emotionally attached. Yes, it's great that you love your charge so much, but the bottom line is that the parents get to make all decisions regarding what is best for their child.[/quote]

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