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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can understand wanting to leave early sometimes, but I would caution against doing it on a regular basis, unless your boss makes it clear that it is time for you to go.  
My current nanny hangs around and we chat and play games with the kids together, or she takes them and I do chores or vice versa.   I like that.  It makes me feel like she likes her job and she likes our family.  I like having the warm fuzzies for the person taking care of my kids, and it makes me feel better about doing nice things for her in return.

This was kind of an issue with our previous nanny.  My husband is a physician, and once every couple of weeks, he has 30 hours on call in the ICU (which usually means little to no sleep), and he comes home at noon. Our nanny would be very judgmental when he went to sleep instead of letting her go home.  That, paired with a few other things, ultimately ended up in us firing her, even though she did well with the kids.  
By the way, it made me feel weird when she ran out the door as soon as I got home too.  I KNOW that she doesn't have anywhere else to be (since she was scheduled to be at work for the next hour), and it was hard not to take that personally.

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Huh? She'd just walk out the door and you'd pay her as if she had stayed?

This is very weird. It's not hard to explain to a rational person that part of her job is to allow a parent who works nights to sleep, or that there will be some overlap in the afternoon. This is totally different from what happened at my house yesterday, when my parents showed up and there were five adults sitting around chatting with the four kids. No reason not to let the nanny go home a little early. Or on Wednesday, when we went to Yom Kippur services in the morning, we told her to come in a couple of hours late.

On a regular day, though, part of why she's there is so that the last hour of her day overlaps with me getting dinner started. We interviewed lots of people, and we've had a few nannies over the last 6 years, and I've never gotten the sense that any of them thought they would be able to leave the second one of us got home! We had set hours, don't you?[/quote]

Yes.  She had guaranteed hours, and set hours, I would pay her for those hours even if she wasn't working, which was our agreement.  However, what I did not expect was that she would up and walk out the door within minutes of my being home every day no matter what time I got home.  As far as what happened with my husband, I still don't really understand it.  I know that I wasn't 100% clear with her before she was hired that he would be home sometimes, and maybe that unnerved her?  She would write these notes and texts on his post call days about how she didn't work with SAH parents, and she wasn't hired to work while we were home, etc.  One was particularly nasty about how we were disrespectful of her and her time.  She really only lasted with us for a few months because of this and a few other issues that were not related to the care of our children.  
And I have done what you are talking about with my previous nanny and with my current nanny, where I have expressly told her that she could leave early, and that is great.  Things come up, and there are times I want some privacy in my home or to be on my own with my children during her working hours.

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