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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DC's nanny has taken a second job with a very wealthy and high-profile family on weekends.  She is earning $6 more per hour with this family than with us.  The weekend family has a beautiful home both here and a vacation home and I know her job is much easier than with us who live in an apartment without a yard or a lot of space.

Nanny took the job with us because it is within walking distance to her home and now we have to move to where she would need to drive.  She also took the job with us because we have just one child and now I am pregnant with number 2.  And she used to work just 34 hours a week and now we need her for 44 to 45 hours a week.

I am afraid we are going to lose her.  We cannot afford (honestly) to pay her more.  We are renting and DH is still in graduate school.  I know Nanny is devoted to my child but...  Well, we simply cannot compete with the salary or perks she gets from her weekend job.

What, if anything, can I do?

TIA[/quote]
Families move on from nannies, and vice versa all the time. Just be fair, honest and have open communication. If you have to do a search process again, so be it -- I'm sure you're wiser and have better questions to ask.  Your child is resilient and will roll with any transition.  They are tons of available nannies out there, and not just at back to school time.

Don't create any unnecessary brain damage for yourself on this - childcare is supposed to help you, not be a .
PITA.[/quote]

How the hell is this nanny being a PITA by working two jobs and clearly doing an excellent job with OP?!

You're an ass, PP.  There are NOT tons of good, educated and experienced nannies out there and many children are not resilient when it comes to losing a beloved caregiver.  [/quote]
I don't know why everyone is jumping on the PP I see it as being pragmatic approach. OP's nanny has not said anything about leaving here job and even if she did OP cannot afford wealthy family rate. So no point in stressing out about things you can't control. Take a breath and slow down you may find another great nanny or you will just find a good one but if you are like most folks, ft childcare is temporary and ends in a few years when your child goes too K.[/quote]

Why do you assume it is out of OP's control?  Are all MBs so perfect that there is nothing they can do to improve in order to keep a good nanny?

OP is also pregnant so is looking for about five more years of childcare and wants to keep the nanny she has.  Pragmatism and callousness are two very different things.

I am a nanny and an occasional "thank you" or compliment about how I care for my MB's child would go a long way with me.  If I ever heard MB utter, "How are you?" to me, I would faint in shock - I am lucky to get a "good morning".  I love and am very devoted to my charge and that is all that is keeping me in my current position.

OP should try to improve where she can.  [/quote]

Haha, the only thing dcum "nannies" care about is their pay.  First thing they ask about on all occasions: holidays coming, vacation coming, not feeling so well, grandparents in town, preschool starting, baby is eating purées now, a MyGym class started, new baby coming.  Me me me, money money money. [/quote]

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