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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have seen a number of nannies advertise for this type of situation who are open to hosting, in which case their home gets the wear and tear.[/quote]

But then you lose the convenience of having a care giver come to your home. You have to pack up your kid (and his snacks, diapers, change of clothes, etc etc) every single morning and get him out of the house, just like you would with daycare (much cheaper) or a true share (in which pay would likely be slightly less AND there is no maternal instinct factor). At this point, isn't this scenario just the equivalent of someone running an illegal/unmonitored daycare out of her home?[/quote]

1. I know parents who don't feeling hosting is such a convenience, 
    and would prefer to take their child elsewhere.

2. Share care costs are often equal, 
    considering the pros and cons for *each* family.

3. The best nannies often have some maternal instinct factor.

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1. Completely ridiculous. The most expensive form of childcare is a nanny because it is convenient for families to have their child cared for in their own home. Also, at their own home, the nanny can help with cleaning, dishes, laundry, etc. The nanny cannot do that if she is not at their home. This is on top of the other issues mentioned above (the inconvenience of having to transport child and all his things daily).

2. Yes, in a true share the costs are equal, but in the scenario of nanny bringing her own child it is not a true share.

3. So...your argument is that nannies will have maternal feelings towards their charge? Well, that sot of makes sense on some level, but NOT IF THE NANNIES OWN CHILD IS PRESENT. If her own child is there her true maternal instinct will ALWAYS BE 100% skewed in favor of her own offspring. This is scientific fact.

Clearly, you are one of those "nannies" who brings her child with her to work (or perhaps, a nanny who si pregnant and planning to do this?). I've seen this with my own eyes too many times. "Nannies" who bring their own child always favor him/her to the detriment of their charge.  Even if they don't fully realize they are doing it, they are. [/quote]

NP, single child-less nanny, not that it matters.

1.  There are many parents who live in tiny apartments and choose to do shares with the other family hosting because they don't have room but they want someone to care for their child who is solely focused on the 2-3 children in their care, not on the 10 or more that are in daycares.

2.  No, it's not a normal share.  In a normal share, parents have to agree about what is done, and it doesn't work if the can't agree about basics (napping, feeding on demand vs. schedule, outings).  With nanny and her child taking the place of the other family, NF gets a child to grow with theirs while being able to set the schedule without negotiations.  The family dictates all activities, all schedules, and nanny and her child go along with it.

3.  Yes, I've felt maternal feelings towards every child in my care.  Yes, I know that there is a difference between the relationship between her own child and her charge.  On the other hand, every rational adult is willing to admit that they will have favorites, so no adult should ever be with more than one child?  And just because a child isn't my favorite atm that means that I won't care as well for them?  How many nannies have you seen caring for two children, and how do you know that a) they are nannies, b) neither child is theirs and c) they are caring for their child better than their charge?[/quote]

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