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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a good job but DH has gone back to graduate school so mine is our only paycheck.  When DC was born, we looked at daycares and were not impressed.  We chose to go with a nanny and hired a very well-educated nanny with years of experience.  She is wonderful and DC adores her.  She has his days filled with classes, activities and is extremely imaginative and energetic.  Pretty much every day we come home and he has learned something new.

We rent, use some of our savings to cover her salary and rarely go out to eat.  I feel the sacrifice is well worth it for DC's emotional security and education.  But I am surprised by how many on the General Forum, who own homes and take vacations, say they cannot afford a nanny and have their child in daycare.

Am I alone in this?  [/quote]
Yes, you are alone. There is no one else like you and there never will be. You love your child more than anyone else in the whole wide world. You are the bestest mother in the universe. You can collect your medal at booth 23. [/quote]

OP, you can't be serious.  Right?  People have different priorities.  Many people (myself included) actually don't think nannies are always the best childcare option.  
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Some people feel that traveling with their kids and giving them life experiences is the most important thing.  Some people think that owning a home and growing future wealth is more important to their children's long-term future than having a nanny now such that the parents will be able to pay to take care of themselves when they are older.  Some people seriously can't afford a nanny, which can run $20k more than daycare if you only have one kid, so even if they do take one Hawaii vacation during the year, they still can't afford a nanny.  Some people feel that daycare is safer because there are many people around and it is very regulated and they don't feel trusting enough of a single person alone taking care of their child.  Some people feel that they would go insane if they didn't take vacations from life and choose sanity and rest for their children's sake rather than a nanny.  Some people have parents who bought them a house and/or take them on vacation, so it may look like they're spending a lot of money to you, but they're really not.  Etc.[/b]

Get over yourself.[/quote]

I love this paragraph.

Something about this whole premise of sacrificing to have a nanny, or being judged if you take vacation but have your child in daycare, rubs me the wrong way.  Daycare can be a terrific childcare solution, as can a nanny, as can a SAHM, or any other combination.  I don't judge others on their choices.

I also don't martyr myself on the childcare issue.  We are blessed to be able to afford a nanny.  It was an affordable solution when we had multiple infants, now it's more of a luxury that we are blessed to be able to afford.  But I won't sacrifice financial ease and peace of mind for that.  If we had to seriously pennypinch then the stress of that would not be worth it - we'd find a more affordable form of childcare that didn't create financial stress.  I don't see the nobility in straining one's financial resources.  I don't even think that's wise.  But if that works for your family great.  Just don't sit there on your ivory tower judging others based on your assumptions. [/quote]

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