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[quote=Anonymous]Back on topic.. I agree with the PP who suggested "talking up the mom" more with the kid.  Encourage the kid to draw some pictures for Mommy and then give them to her when she comes home.  Make a special treat for Mommy together (like muffins or something you know she likes) and talk about how much Mommy will like them.

Even if MB doesn't love what's going on, if she sees that you are trying to encourage the kid to think about her during the day and to do nice things for her, she'll appreciate it and will feel closer to the kid and less jealous of you.  Don't be too overt about it or overboard -- like she "needs" it -- but just do little things like this periodically, particularly if the kid didn't want to kiss her on the way out the door that morning.  It's only going to make everyone happier -- no reason not to!

As for the raging debate about lasting harm to kids... I think the PP erred by not making it totally clear that the issue was multiple inconsistent caregivers at an early age, NOT the fact that the mom was working.  The discussion really devolved after that, but there is real truth based on all the research I've seen that inconsistent caregivers at an early age is not healthy for development.  That means having multiple nannies over a period of a year when the kid is still an infant or toddler -- NOT having a nanny and a working mom and dad.

What "multiple" and "inconsistent" mean might vary by situation -- what the child can deal with based on innate personality, how the changes are handled and for what reasons, etc.[/quote]

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