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[quote=nannydebsays]OP, you said: "...trying to figure out if the lack of bonding is due to time or the nanny not trying. I am going to give my nanny more time - though I still don't believe that just my mom's presence somehow prevents the nanny from doing her job."

How many days has your nanny spent with baby? How long are those days? Has G'ma ever gone out and left nanny to do her job?

My point is, no nanny can "bond" within days or even weeks of starting. Bonding happens over time, when a child and a caretaker interact, and the caretaker welcomes the full responsibility of keeping a child happy safe, and healthy.

Your nanny may be (rightfully) worried that G'ma is judging her all the time and telling you nanny is doing a bad job. Nanny may have figured G'ma would prefer to take over, especially if she is there offering ideas and suggestions.

Ask your mom to leave the nanny and baby be. If she can't stay back out of the way while in the house, ask her to go out each day for several hours so the nanny can start to figure out how to care for your newborn.

If your baby doesn't start to adjust within a few weeks of being actually cared for by nanny without any help, then consider making a change.

Meanwhile, sit down and ask your nanny how she thinks it's going, ask her how she soothed 3-month-olds at daycare, tell her any great tips you have for caring for your baby, and then see what happens.[/quote]

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