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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It has become clear that our nanny of 5 years just doesn't like our 3yo. The 3yo is a very strong willed child with a lot of personality who makes everyone laugh - except nanny. Our older child, 5, is your typical a first born - risk averse, plays quietly to herself, perfectionist. The two kids play great together, are very loving and affectionate, etc. But nanny just does not click with the 3 yo. This results in nanny making comments to me about how difficult the 3yo is, nanny being very flustered and stressed out, and saying things like "if you don't stop crying I'll leave you on the sidewalk all alone" which the 3yo reported back to me. It's so bad that when we had to take the 3yo to the ER for a severe and mysterious allergic reaction last week, nanny didn't even ask about it the next morning, but fawned over the 5 yo who had a much milder reaction to the same mystery allergen ("oh poor baby, are you ok- let me see"...)

Clearly we need a new nanny. But we are not in a position to fire her tomorrow and try to find someone new very quickly. So how do we bandaid the situation until we can transition to someone new?  Also, how do I handle reference calls from new families who will likely ask why we are moving in from her?

Thanks![/quote]

I'm sorry OP, but I see nothing in this post that makes me think you need to replace your nanny right away.
I think you are putting the cart before the horse a bit.
You have had this nanny for 5 years I think that warrant sitting down and trying to work things out.
Have you once sat down and heard the nanny's concerns as objectively as possible?[/quote]

+1 Did you talk with your nanny about the sidewalk thing or just hear your child's version of events?
There was a post on here about a month ago with a mom wanting to fire a nanny because the 5 or 6 year old said the nanny let the baby climb on the steps and everyone said nanny needed another chance or that mom needed to speak with nanny about it.

Could she have handled a sidewalk tantrum differently? Maybe, but we have all had high stress moments after a long day with kids and occasionally mess up.

The ER incident is not really relevant. Highly emotional and your version of events is likely clouded by emotions and not very objective.

What I've gotten from your posts, OP , and I say this as  a mom who employs a nanny and a mother of 2 children with vastly different personalities, is that your nanny of 5 years has tried to approach you with her concerns and you instead of  hearing her out have chosen to brush them aside with a well everyone else thinks it's funny.
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