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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You'd have to first agree what a nanny is. Good luck with that, seeing that some of you think it's a warm body, while others think it's a professional with extensive knowledge of, and experience with early childhood development.[/quote]

Ok, let's talk definitions? What exactly is "extensive knowledge or early childhood development"? has read X number of books about it? Has a degree?  Has been a nanny for X years? But that's experience, not necessarily knowing the theory or latest research.[/quote]
Put it like this... I have yet to be presented with an issue I didn't know how to solve. I take the time to gather the info I need, and I know the solution. Neither theory, nor latest research, can do that for a child.

It's been continuing education and ongoing experience, that got me here. Last time I chatted with an agency owner, she grilled me with every possible dilemma she could think of. After I aced every question in the book and then some, she said, "Now why do you want to be a nanny?" As if I was overqualified to work with children. Yes, I do consulting too, for a $100/hr. Probably lots of people are overqualified to do what they love doing. It's fine.[/quote]

The problem with this is there is not one right answer to every question.  There are a lot of different right ways to do something and just because your way works doesn't mean it is consistent with the family's philosophy or the only right way to do something.  Truthfully, I'd prefer a nanny who was more open to trying things different ways and allowing us to figure out what is right for our family than one who always had the "answer."  If that means I am hiring a sitter, I guess I prefer a sitter ....[/quote]

I find the PP nanny as annoying as you do, but are you seriously saying that you'd rather overlook a technique known to work as presented by the nanny and instead muddle through parenting for the first time as though you didn't have the benefit of this experienced caregiver to draw from? WHY? She's at your disposal with experience with many different kids and many different families and probably a range of parenting approaches, why would you want to overlook that?

For my part, I'm a nanny who also feels I pretty much always know how to handle something (sorry) but I have a very parent-friendly approach in which I will suggest small things as ideas and will keep my mouth shut about bigger issues until I'm asked. For my NF that was two years in to their daughter sleeping for no one except me. I told them what they should do, how it will play out, and assured them it would be worth it. Within a day she was sleeping for them and has been for months now, no regression. They were trying to figure it out themselves but I promise, I could have saved everyone a lot of sleepless nights and, honestly, could have saved DC a lot of tears. It may be difficult to do CIO with a one year old but it is infinitely worse to spend the entire second year sleep deprived and STILL having hour+ screaming fits at every nap and bed time. [/quote]

So you were doing CIO on your own with the child that's how she/he would sleep only only for you for two years?  And the parents didn't know that? And then you told them what to do, reassured them and within one day that changed?

I am very much pro-CIO, but I respect parents who decide not to utilize it, it's up to them to make a choice.  What know-it-all nannies here don't seem to get is that there might be cultural, religious or other preferences that dictate certain choices.  Not because the nanny is wrong but because the parents have reasons to choose otherwise.[/quote]
What you don't seem to get, is that it's human nature to do what has always worked for you. That's why if you want to be guaranteed a Kosher kitchen, you get a Jewish nanny, not a Muslim nanny.

If your way doesn't make sense to her, well what can we say? Good luck with that, lady.[/quote]

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