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[quote=Anonymous]Wow. Just wow.

As a prior Domestic Abuse victim, I know first-hand the shame from society that goes along w/being in this type of situation.

Society can be so harsh and judgmental toward Domestic Violence victims.
They tell us to do the right thing and leave the abuser. So when we do, they then punish us by avoiding us because they are so afraid that by having any contact with us, they themselves will be put in direct danger.

It's like a catch-22 situation. Blame the victim all over again.

Maybe this woman needs this job to break away from her abuser. Maybe she needs to make her own way so she can stand on her own.

Well if that is the case, and no one will give her a chance because they are just "so afraid" that they themselves will be in danger then aren't they themselves blaming the victim??!

I say you hire her and do not give her any stipulations that you wouldn't give anyone else.

It wouldn't be fair to hire her, yet tell her that you will be using a camera for her or that if anything happens like her spouse showing up, she will be let go, etc.

Why would you treat her like she is some sort of freakin' criminal?? Like you are already suspicious of her..? She has already been treated like a second class citizen by her spouse....And then by you too?

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Sorry if this sounds harsh OP. I don't mean to.
It's just that going through Domestic Abuse, I have experienced a lot of people treating me as if were to partially to blame for my circumstances and it was unfair. :([/quote]

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