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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know lots of parents who consider their nanny to be very much of a co-parent. [/quote]

They probably also consider their husband a coparent, but he's not the mother either.  I am a nanny and I would find it very strange to be given a Mother's Day gift.  My role in the children's lives is special and important and I am secure enough that I value my actual role of caregiver and do not need to be honored for a role I do not fill.[/quote]
I doubt the father is the primary caregiver. Are you the primary caregiver?[/quote]

I now see the kids about the same number of waking hours as the parents (4-day-per-week preschool), but yes, for a log time I spent more waking hours with them than their mother.  But bein the primary caregiver did not make me their mother.  I love my charges in the time that I am with them, but at any point I could just walk away.  Being a caregiver means that you are responsible for the kid(s) for X hours a day.  Being a mother is about being responsible TO the kid(s) every minute day or night from the time they are born until you die.  Every choice a mom makes is about her kids in some way, and no mom should ever believe that she can be replaced by ANY employee, no matter how dedicated or loving.[/quote]

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