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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I get a snow day at work all that means is that I can do my computer work from home.  None of my deadlines move.  If nanny does not come then I end up staying up late (sometimes through the morning) finishing up projects.  I would be happy to give the nanny a day of on the snow day if she offers to come on the weekend when it is safe and let me finish my work.  If it's all just about nanny's safety then it should work.   It's just the nannies I came across would jump on not having to come in if it snows a little bit but noone offers to make up the hours.

I am an employer.  I do not really get snow days though.  I just get the opportunity to finish my work from home.  If nanny gets the snow means she gets to finish the work on a different day like I am then I am fine it[/quote]

You are insane. [/quote]

Do you even have a nanny?[/quote]

No, but I am a nanny and I would resent you for making me make up snow days. Let's just hope your nanny doesn't feel the same way.[/quote]

Our nanny been with us for three years.  She gets a lot of paid days of as our family travels a lot.  6-7 weeks paid vacation make up for possible resentment I think

My only point is that nannies want the same treatment as office workers.  Office workers like me do not just get the snow days of.  My work does not stop.  Why should the nanny's?[/quote]

Just because your manager is an asshat doesn't mean you have to be one to your nanny.
It's a matter of safety.  Bottom line: it is not safe to drive.
How exactly do nannies (you're generalizing BTW) want to be treated like office workers?
Fair pay, benefits...?  [/quote]

You are right, I am generalizing.   I saw a lot of threads on this forum with nannies expressing they want the same treatment as office workers.   I am all in support of that.  My nanny gets paid time of (a lot of it) , I pay her health insurance, give her stipend or her taxes, entirely cover her transportation costs,  always pay OT etc   I extend all the benefits I have to my nanny.   I gave her more than 1/2 on my bonus last year.   But I do expect her to share some of my responsibilities in return.  I think it is only fair.[/quote]

I get what you're saying, and I agree to an extent, but I think your expectation ought to be that your nanny handle HER responsibilities in return, not do whatever you want/need to make it possible for you to handle yours. That's not her job. Her job is to care for your kids within the hours of Y-Z, with a reasonable expectation that she will not be expected to report when travel is dangerous. Making up hours on the weekends because YOU have responsibilities is not her job. Childcare issues and having to make up work on a snow day are tough, we get it. Your nanny doesnt have job where she has deadlines to meet, or where her work comes home with her. You can't expect her to shoulder that for you. Taking care of your children is first and foremost your job. Meeting your deadlines at work is your job. Making sure all of that happens and that you don't have to stay up late or whatever is not your nanny's job. It is to be available from Y-Z, barring uncontrollable circumstances (snow, earthquakes, hurricanes, etc). [/quote]

I can see what you are saying as well. And thanks for the sane reply.   You are right that these are my kids and my responsibilities.  I would also never expect the nanny or anyone to risk their life, put themselves in danger, etc.   Personally, I do not think that  couple of inches of snow is the same as an earthquake.  I went to the office yesterday and was just fine.  Nevertheless, I arrange transportation for our non-driving nanny on such days including yesterday.  I guess for me personally it comes down to the fact that if the nanny is gonna take every possible time off and her responsibility is to just be there Y-Z I would pay her accordingly for that.   If someone is willing to understand my circumstances and help or our family to run smoothly their compensation will be adjusted accordingly.  Our nanny been with us for a while.  She never requested a snow day.  I guess we are a good match with her.  I imagine she gets paid way more than most nannies on this forum.
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If your nanny is a good fit for your family and your expectations, and you feel like you pay her well for accommodating those expectations, then who am I to judge? All that I want in an employer is for them to be equally considerate and flexible toward me as they expect from me. If I feel that I'm getting that, I won't bitch about coming in when its snowing. But I am not going to be happy if wake up at 5 am, catch two busses and walk almost a mile to your home, slip on your unshoveled stairs, only to see you in your pjs drinking coffee and watching TV while pretending to telework, and you keep me until its dark out, I slip again because you still didn't shovel, and bus service was halted for the weather and now I have to pay for a cab. Not going to be happy. And I am not exaggerating. I had a family do that to me, and they cried that MB cried her eyes out when I quit months later and she couldn't figure out why. [/quote]

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