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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, I am an MB w/ a long-term nanny so I may not understand the whole au pair world, but it seems rather silly and petty to me that a parent would begrudge someone extra time off if they were around to stay w/ their children.  I actually like being able to send my nanny home early b/c it means I can spend more time w/ my children.  With two working parents any time we can spend with our children we do.  I wouldn't spend any energy sending passive aggressive messages to my au pair and just do what works/is right for my family.[/quote]

Maybe you didn't mean it like I took it but your post kind of illustrates why I feel guilty for using 45 hours and resent that.  Of note, I have 3 kids under 6 (6, 4 and 3 to be exact).  I work fulltime, so does my husband and we have no free help in the area (grandparents etc.).  
When I have a federal holiday, I have our AP work because it is finally a day where I can relax, take care of somethings etc.  Otherwise, it is ALWAYS me (and husband) taking care of the kids: mornings, evenings, weekends.  I am not a machine and would soo much like a break sometimes.  But you make me feel guilty because I sound like I don't want to spend extra time with my kids when I spent all of my none-working hours with them (excluding sleep).[/quote]
Generally, when you have children, this is how life is. You don't get a special prize for taking care of your children when you are not at work. [/quote]

Why so nasty?  This poster wasn't asking for a "special prize" or even any sympathy.  She was simply saying that one of the reasons she has an au pair is not only for childcare during work purposes, but also so she can get some me time.  You have no idea how much of a break her au pair gets or how her au pair feels about the situation based on her tiny paragraph.  [/quote]

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