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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And to add on (I'm one of the PPs; I see your other responses now too): you say you would have paid your own way for this trip.  This tells me that (1) you actually don't have any idea how expensive this trip could be, and that therefore your assumptions about the family's finances are probably incorrect; or (2) you yourself come from a fairly well-off background, if you have $1000+ US dollars to spend on a vacation right now with a family you don't know that well yet.  Even if you saved up lots of money to bring with you to the US on your AP year because you worked hard at home before coming here (instead of your family giving you this money), you probably would not be willing to drop it all so quickly on this vacation.  Why not use that money to go to Mexico on your actual vacation week, with friends?  Or anywhere else?  Buying a last-minute plane ticket to Mexico is not cheap, and you have no idea how expensive the hotel might be.  Maybe the wedding party is paying for part of the trip for the family, but did not offer to pay for an extra person....If you think you have enough money to pay for this trip, and it's because your family gives you lots of money, that might also explain your cavalier attitude toward re-matching.

Though, I do not want to gang up on you if I am reading this situation in the wrong way, and making incorrect assumptions about your own financial circumstances.  I do think that the child's behavior and having to stay in the house to let in workmen if you are not comfortable with that - and because that is not your job - are real and legitimate issues, and hopefully when you talk this all over with your LCC, you will find a good solution.  But as I stated above, and other posters have stated - the way your situation sounds "on paper" right now, you don't make a good impression as a re-match candidate. [/quote]

I said I could have paid for my own way for this trip with my personal money.
I work and study back home and I have some money to travel on my 2 weeks off and for the travel month as well.
My family didn't give me money to travel, they paid for my visa (about $200) and my agency fee was free.

And again, I know I am not wrong by saying the family's well off. They have great jobs, a beautiful house etc. But I don't care about their financial situation, I only mentioned it to reply the person that said I have no idea how they live.

I don't think my attitude is cavalier ... I wanted to feel part of a family, they told me that several times, in their letter/file to me, in person, several times when I got there ... and when there's a chance for me to feel included and accepted, I'm suddenly a stranger! That's how I feel and I don't think I can forgive them !
My decision is taken, I will ask for a rematch, I'm mad at them and I'd rather be with people who make me feel part of the family, not just help.[/quote]

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