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OP here. Thanks for the feedback. To answer some questions:
1. For Saturdays we will be paying her overtime at 150% which we do anyway if she goes over 40 hours. I understand that many do not like working on Saturdays which is why I labored the point at the interview to the  point  where she came back with questions at which I clarified that it wasn't every Saturday nor all day Saturday. Just 3-4 hours on the Saturdays we go out. We are always  back by 10:30 -11:30. I only put 2 Saturdays on contract to cover myself.  I hate baiting and switching particularly with my kids' care givers.
2. I know it seems like I am a sucker  but, this being our third nanny (1st was with us for 5 yrs but,  at 65,  I didn't think she would be able to cope with 2 new borns especially as she was already refusing to drive because she was getting nervous; second-  after 3 years betrayed our trust in a big way- borrowed money from us to buy a car which she never bought and went to our neighbor begging for the money to pay us back telling neighbor we were threatening to sack her if she did not pay is back -we were not),  there doesn't seem to be the perfect nanny out there.  
3. I could insist she stick to the contract but what's the point in having someone unhappy with us caring for our kids? This is why I haven't pushed the Saturday and cleaning issues. If she's going to be irritable with the kids as a result I'd rather not go that route.
Wouldn't it be better to just try again?

[b]We try so hard to make our nannies happy[/b] by being very clear at interviews, paying reasonably well with perks ( medical insurance, taxes, 5 days paid sick and 4 weeks paid vacation (2 weeks nanny's choice )), giving interest free loans  with easy repayment terms, but there's always an issue. I figure this nanny checks most of the boxes, hence my hesitation in firing her.
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OP, I think this is your mistake. There is nothing wrong with a happy nanny, but the purpose of her employment is NOT to make her happy.  It is to make YOU happy.  You need to shed the guilt you seem to have in making the judgment that some people aren't going to work out for you.  You are giving her an EXCELLENT package, and for that package you ought to have a total peace of mind that things are being done to YOUR satisfaction.  You are the employer. You have the right to insist on compliance with your wishes.  You sign the checks, don't you forget it! If you directed the nanny to speak only Spanish, she needs to speak the damn Spanish or be fired!! Why are you feeling conflicted about this?

Your nanny is totally taking advantage of you.  The hiring of her friend to clean your house for extra $ makes it very clear to me.  She figured you for a sucker and is pushing forward. Tell me, what would your employer do if you told them you can't do some of the things you were hired for, and[b] they need to pay extra for them[/b]?[/quote]

In regards to the house cleaning--I assumed OP meant her nanny hired her own friend and is paying her $60/week herself out of her own salary. If this is the case, it's still weird and gutsy to do something like that. If its not the case and OP is actually paying this house-cleaning friend herself  ON TOP of her nanny's salary, then, well. That is just nuts and the OP would have to be crazy-nice or just crazy-naive to do that.[/quote]

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