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How many parents can honestly say that having a second child was a detriment to the first child?

It's laughable to even consider such nonsense.

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There are obviously pros of having a sibling (someone else to play with), but there are also obvious cons.  Most parents would tell you that the second or subsequent child got less attention than the first (because the parent is also paying attention to the first child).  First children are also able to nap/eat/play on their own schedule.  Subsequent children don't dictate the schedule as much and frequently nap in the car or something while first child is being driven to activities or whatever.  There are definite detriments to having more than one child.

Now if there are even detriments when we're talking about your OWN children, imagine that one of the children isn't your own.  If both children are crying at the same time or one child darts one way on the playground and one child another, or one child is still napping twice in a day and the other child wants to go to the playground - which is the caretaker going to prioritize?

Parents who want nannies typically do so because they want their child to have individualized attention.  So some of these parents are going to see these detriments that come with having a second child around an
d feel that it's a disadvantage that they should either be compensated for or that they're not interested in at all.  [/quote]

What you are really talking about is EXCLUSIVE attention, not individualized attention. A good first grade teacher gives individualized 
attention, not exclusive attention. Most of us desire the best for children to become healthy adults, rather than spoiled, entitled elitists.

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PP, you sound incredibly ignorant.  Are you really suggesting that there is no difference in need for attention between an infant or toddler and a first grader?  I would be totally comfortable with a share for school-age kids, but much less so with infants or toddlers.  That would be especially true if I had a toddler and the nanny wanted to bring an infant.

I realize that most of the dumber-sounding posts on here originate with one or two nannies who talk like they know it all but have such poor self-esteem and social skills that they must resort to insulting the parenting skills and/or "cheapness" or all MBs and DBs who differ with the nanny's worldview.  It must be tough to go through life feeling so angry, PP.  You annoy me, but mostly I just pity you.  [/quote]
Do you also pity the pediatric psychiatrist MB and her physician husband who hired the nanny with child in tow? As you may recall, it was certainly no bargain. They simply wanted the best for their child, and could afford it.[/quote]

Not a bit, because the physician parents are not on DCUM spewing angry nonsense.  They made a choice that worked for them at the time, and that's great.  I pity you, PP, because no well-adjusted person behaves like you.  You've clearly been wronged by the world in some very deep way, and that is sad.[/quote]

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