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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, but I just can't imagine how awful you rich white women feel, asking your nanny to abandon her own child, just for you. It's not like caring for one child (yours), is superior to caring for two children (yours and hers). Do you really think her child might contaminate yours? Why not enhance your child's experience of real life, by welcoming the nanny's child?[/quote]

This was the resentment I was referring to. [/quote]

I don't get to take my children to work, if I'm paying my nanny to watch my children why should I let her bring her child too?  FWIW my nanny doesn't have children and if she did and asked if she could bring them I'd consider it but I don't think it should be a given at all.  What makes you think you are so entitled?  If I asked my employer if I could bring my children to work she would look at me like I had 3 heads.  If you work outside of your home, whether it's because you want to or you have to, it's your choice.  If you want a job where you can bring your children it's up to you to find one that would allow it.  If you approach it as an entitlement rather than a privledge though you'll never find anyone who wants you to work for them.[/quote]

OP here- I can somewhat understand where your coming from, but I am sure most if not all nannies who bring their children take a pay cut for it. So it is not an entitlement it is a trade between two people to negotiate price and as you put it "privilege". The point of this thread is not to bash anyone nanny or MB. I respectfully accepted the terms of my employment, and I would not even consider asking my bosses to bring my child. But there are also families who would agree to a share but would not agree for the nanny to being her own child for a pay decrease. So how would you explain that? That seems ill-mannered in my opinion. Idk about the poster who you quoted who clearly had animosity in her response. Buy I do not think it has anything to do with entitlement once it is fairly negotiated.[/quote]

I'm the PP you quoted and I agree with you completely.  My comments were directed at the PP I quoted and not towards you.  I actually feel for you completely and your situation.  I agree that it makes no sense for someone to be ok with a nanny share but not for the nanny to bring her own children.  I think that seems ill-mannered too.  I wasn't saying a nanny should never be allowed to bring her children to work either and as I said, I might even be ok with it myself depending on the nanny and number of children if we negoiated it fairly for everyone involved.  The PP made it seem like any parent though who didn't let a nanny bring their children was a bad person and I don't agree with that either.  OP, I don't think you sound entitled at all, I think you are trying to do what's best given a difficult situation.  [/quote]

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