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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's just something distasteful about a woman hiring me to love and care for her kids because she thinks I am the best available substitute for her, then asking me to have someone else care for my kids.

I think your perspective is wrong, and I think it's indicative of the great class divide in America as well as the culture we have created where mothers, in the role of mothering, are undervalued. Our lack of maternity leave, lack of affordable childcare options, this ongoing burden of shame we try to heap on mothers whether they work or stay at home, use daycare or hire a nanny, are all features of this problem. And you are contributing to it with your assessment that it is unreasonable of a nanny - whose JOB and SKILLS are directly correlated with being a parent - to want to bring her children with her.

[b]It is understandable that you would choose not to hire someone with their own kids, certainly[/b], but it [i]breaks my heart to think you'd let go a beloved nanny if she gave birth to her own child[/i] (unless she found alternative care). It's disgusting, frankly.[/quote]

So, when a woman with her own child applies for a job with me, my choices are 1) not hire her, 2) let her bring her kid(s), or 3) realize that I should feel terribly guilty and pay her to stay home with her kids? I don't get this. I put an ad on care.com and someone with kids applied. Clearly she wants the job.[/quote]

I think I was pretty clear that I felt it was understandable that you'd want to hire someone without kids and that what bothers me most are the threads about "my nanny is pregnant when do i fire her?" Sorry if I wasn't clear enough for you.

Obviously your choices are to do whatever the F you want, but yeah, I do think you should feel guilty. Just like you should feel guilty if you shop at WalMart or eat at McDonalds. When you hire a nanny who's left her own kids behind you know that people are suffering unnecessarily for your benefit, and only a sociopath isn't phased by that at all.[/quote]

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