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[quote=Anonymous]Humans have been "outsourcing" childcare since we first came into being. In the book [i]Brain Rules for Baby[/i], the importance of non-family caregivers in prehistoric human societies is examined at length. And we certainly know that during "historic" human times parents have used nannies and nurses, master tradesmen, boarding schools, as well as the fields and factories as "caregivers" for their children.

Hiring a loving nanny to care for them while you work is in no way wrong. Yeah, my boss could financially afford to take more time off to stay home, but after three or four years of that her career would be a non-starter and then what would they do? Her salary pays mine, for now, so that she remains competitive in the market and will be able to command higher pay down the line.

No one should have kids if they don't want to build a loving bond with them, but hiring a nanny in no way implies that is the case. Nor does staying home imply you are a great parent; plenty of SAHMs don't  build loving bonds with their kids - ever see Supernanny? So many of those moms will go entire days without playing with their kids.

Maybe we stop judging hypothetical people we've never met and just do the best we can in our own lives. If you work for parents who neglect and ignore their kids, by all means, complain about it - it's a heartbreaking thing to witness - but all this judgement about whether or not someone who can afford a nanny should stay home with them on and on, is so wrong and offensive. Like moms don't already get enough criticism in our society.[/quote]

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