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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a nanny and I don't really think that the OP is being unreasonable. I have a wonderful relationship with my MB and DB and we never have problems. My MB is very anal and particular about certain things but I know how she is so I do things to her liking. I [b]don't bring things into their house without first consulting them (even things like crayons, play-doh, etc.) and I would never bring something used over because I know she wouldn't feel comfortable with her child using things that have been used by someone else.[/b] I am sure to clean to mess that I make during the day and I usually leave everything else.

When I first started working my MB had [b]a few small complaints[/b] and she let me know right away instead of letting each little thing slide. How is your nanny supposed to correct her behavior if you don't let her know when something bothers you? Make it clear that you want to be the one to make decisions in your child's life, especially first anything. The first time they try foods or an activity, let her know that you want to know about it BEFORE she mentions it to the child.

When you correct her or bring up a behavior be sure to let her know that it isn't personal and that you are just very particular. Let the nanny know that the things that you mention are nonnegotiable. If she is unable to follow your requests then let her go. [/quote]

Wow. I would hate to work for an MB like yours, or one like the OP. How do you have any sense of ownership or pride or contentment in your job when you don't even have the freedom to brush DC's hair to the left side instead of the right? That may be a slight exaggeration, but IMO if I had to check with my MB every time I wanted to take the kids to Walgreens to pick out a "treat"/$1 toy, I would literally feel like I was her daughter babysitting my sisters or something instead of her employee. And in case you begin to think I am one of "those" nannies who think they always know more than the parents and override anything they say, I am actually quite the opposite. I am a very flexible nanny who defers to my bosses whenever an issue arises, but at the same time, I get satisfaction and joy from doing a job-well-done and loving my DC's as my own, which DOES occasionally include *gasp* giving them a non-pre-approved present.

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