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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, a good nanny takes care of the kids while parents are gone.  A great nanny builds connections in a family even when the family is apart.  If you think the little boy is missing his parents, why not talk about all the important things that keep them busy?  [/quote]

Not the one you were responding to, but it's kind of hard to constantly have to lie to the kids when you know that it is not work or anything important keeping the parents out and away from the kids. When they decide to go out to lunch with each other, then daddy goes to play golf with a friend (not as a business networking thing, but truly for fun) and mom goes shopping for $500 jeans, goes out for coffee, stops at home to drop off her bags and then leaves again saying she wants to go to a volunteer meeting to save the state/national parks. Then afterwards, they go out to dinner together with friends, stop by some high society event afterwards just to be seen, and get home hours after the kids have gone to bed. Yeah, that was a really important day that they couldn't have decided to skip even ONE of these things to spend an hour alone with their kids...[/quote]

You just proved the PP's point.  It's more important to you to feel holier-than the parents than it is to explore ways to help the child and parent build connections.  You aren't prioritizig the child any more than they are. [/quote]

How do you know that I didn't try finding ways to build connections? Were you there while I was working everyday? Did you see everything that I did? The parents told me to not text or email them about what we were doing, not to send photos. I tried to set up things that the parents could do quickly during a brief break between other plans, have things set up before they got home, so that they could get right into doing a craft or playing a board game or whatever. I offered many things to try and get the parents and kids some time together without it affecting their other plans too much. The parents just didn't care. I have worked for many families that had money and large staff, not all were not involved with their kids. Most actually specifically went out of their way to involve the kids in their busy day. But this one family in particular, they just didn't care to spend time with the kids or hear about what the kids were doing when not with them. I was with the family for 2 years before I finally gave up on trying to "build connections". I moved on to another family that DID want to get texts and photos and would love to have me try and find a few minutes to spend with their kids during a busy and hectic day.

So no, I don't feel holier-than anybody, but sometimes the parents really should just try and step up for their kids a little bit more, especially when someone else is offering to help them get a few brief minutes.[/quote]

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