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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]by middle school, boys really need a positive male role model/peer. Unfortunately, not many female nannies can relate or develop bond that is maternal on some level with a teen boy. They don't need another mother, they need a guy they can hangout with and toss a football around or talk about girls with. I think the issues you face with them are probably more because your a woman filling in as mom rather than a man filling in as coach/friend. 
I think you need to move on and tell the parents to hire a male nanny.

Also, I can relate to the not loving the kids in your care. I care deeply for the children and would do anything to protect them but I do not love them anywhere remotely like their parents. At the end of the day they are not mine or part of my family. I will most likely lose all contact with them after my job is over (even if i try to stay in touch). But this doesn't mean i give them the best care possible or withhold affection. Its more like a teacher's or daycare provider's attachment to their students.  [/quote]

This is a good point.  Especially the 12 year old, he is starting to go through puberty and anything I say to him these days just exasperates him.  I try to relate to him, but I could see where there would be a wall up because he doesn't think I as a female "get" him.

And YES, I cannot call it love because at the end of the day the family views me as an employee.  Part of that is just protecting myself because as you said, most nannies don't stay in the kids' lives forever.[/quote]

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