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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dh and I have two kids under 7 years old. Our kids are very picky eaters and we just feed them what they want and worry about things later. Nanny last day was last Friday. This is our [b]third nanny in five years[/b] and she lasted five months. I received a email today from our nanny reasons why she is no longer working for us.

1. Kids are too loud
[/quote] Then the nanny needs to set rules about noise and enforce.  Parents need to get on board with that.  However, if it's just normal children's noise, nanny is too sensitive.[quote]
2. Kids diet is terrible 
[/quote]This would be a sticking point for me.  I'll go along with Kids Eat in Color, division of responsibility (adult prepares and puts a healthy balance on the table, child decides what to eat), or any other chance to help the children learn to broaden their palate and eat healthier.  If it's solely carbs and fats, no fruits and vegetables, not interested.[quote]
3. Too strict on technology 
[/quote]I have no issue with this... If the parents also limit technology.[quote]
4. Kids eat too much ( poopy diapers 3 a day)
[/quote]Kids eating too much is a problem if they're eating crap food and are overweight/not exercising/playing.  The number of diapers should [b]not[/b] be a problem or a reason to say that the children are eating too much.[quote]
5. Cry too much and not Discipline
[/quote]Are the children more emotionally sensitive?  Are they crying when told to do something?  Are they crying when they are corrected?  Discipline is not punishment, it's required to help the children develop self-discipline.  Crying when corrected is fine, crying to try to get out of doing homework, chores or activities is not.[quote]
6. I didn’t sign up for parents to be home all day ( my job gave us a opportunity to work from home)
[/quote]Many nannies don't want to work with parents at home, especially if the parent is in and out of their office/bedroom/workspace and/or micromanages.  Many, many nannies put up with it during covid, but now, it should have been a conversation with the nanny so that she should decide to continue or look for a new job (not that you should base whether you are woh or wah on her wishes).  A simple conversation may have let you reach a compromise of a month or two to see how if goes, or it would have at least let you know earlier that she wouldn't want to continue, so you could have put off the switch until you found another nanny.[quote]
7. Kids are too sickly( cold, diaper rash and etc)
[/quote]Many nannies don't want to work with sick children because they don't get adequate time (paid) to recuperate when the children make them ill.  Many nannies also understand that children who are very sick (flu and worse) will be crotchety for the nanny and just want the parent.  Some nannies will work through every illness, but when we agree to that, we also negotiate for good sick leave (I have unlimited).[quote]

I was upset when I read it and my husband said, just ignore it and etc. [/quote]

The sheer fact that you've gone through 3 nannies in 5 years says a lot.  Some of the above are major red flags (quality of food!).  I'd suggest considering whether you really want a nanny, what you offer, whether your children are special needs or behavior problems (and hire someone competent and experienced, if so), and figure out what you can do to make your family stand out in a good way to a nanny.[/quote]

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