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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here -- I checked her references (but again, those are people I don't know so I have to take with a grain of salt). I did a background and driving check and she came back clear. We have a nanny who we hired during the pandemic. I was  working from home, so I could keep an eye and ear out. After two years, I had full trust in her and her decision making. I will not have that luxury this time. Our nanny is moving, so we need to find someone else.

I am not trying to replicate her and know that I can't really. So I am trying to let the new nanny stand on her own. The things that were great about her seem really great. She brought the kids bubbles to the in person interview. She engaged with the kids and took a "tour" of my oldest's favorite spots in the yard. The things I worry about are not deal breakers but are things I loved about our outgoing nanny. (She made connections with other families and I don't totally get that vibe from the prospective nanny -- but I also don't make connections with other families at pick up. So it is not a deal breaker.) She is a little more "chill" and not bubbly. But again, safety and engagement are my focus, so chipper isn't a deal breaker but it makes it hard to feel 100% confident in my decision.

I am not sure if I need to keep looking (although from a timing perspective I don't totally have that option) or just roll with it and see if my worries go away. I know what I want which is either my old nanny stays or I found her exact clone (neither of which happened). But, decision making is so hard for me and this one matters so much.

I guess I was hoping to hear that others had those doubts but they went away and nanny was great or you knew right away and found someone else. I don't know if the doubt is nerves or something else, if that makes sense.

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OP no child care provider is perfect. Not even your mom or you or your DH.   She sounds like she was making an effort.  What are your concerns? As long as there are no safety issues, she is reliable, and follows direction, it doesn't sound like you have any real issue other than unfamiliarity.   Build in a probation period, do several check-ins, and go for it. You already had one candidate ghost you, and you said you don't  have a lot of time.  Also, I assume you are paying on the books, etc, so you are not putting her or your family in an awkward position if it doesn't work out.[/quote]

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