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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's not a good fit for your family.

for future reference, establish clear expectations. We have it in our handbook that aps have a curfew of being home 8 hours before their shift is due to start. They can spend their time however they want on Friday and Saturday nights, but Sunday night is school night, and the curfew applies there. We've never had anyone having issues with this.[/quote]

Seriously. We aren't running a college dorm. We are a family with kids in the house who don't want to be awakened by someone getting home at 4am. It's not unreasonable to have a curfew in a home with young kids.[/quote]

You can't control another adult's life ...
She's not your daughter.
All you can ask is for her to not make noise when she gets home in the middle of the night on weekends and that's it.

It's different during the week, she has to sleep and you can ask her to come home at a reasonable time[/quote]

Yeah, my house, my rules. I didn't sign up to be a dorm for an aupair. It's not controlling someone's life or being unreasonable. If you are a guest in someone's house, even a long term one, you need to respect the person paying the mortgage. 
[b]You don't need to match with a family with a curfew or household rules you don't agree with, [/b]but it's not unusual or even culturally uncommon for a household to have a curfew out of respect for the adults who work jobs with morning hours and children who attend school.

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Did I miss the part where this curfew was agreed upon or outlined in a contract at the time the AP matched? I can’t seem to find it.[/quote]

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