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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t see this as an issue of “controlling her life”. When you go to someone’s house and they ask you to remove your shoes, are they controlling your life?  No - it’s their house and they set the rules. The host mom isnt controlling what the AP can do in her life, but merely enforcing rules of her home. Rules that presumably all family members abide by. So I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all to say, in our house, absent unusual circumstances, everyone needs to be home by midnight. [/quote]

OP here. Yes the post is real. I don’t know what anyone would gain from starting drama an anonymous forum. The only reason I found myself on the board is that I am new to the AP world and I don’t know anyone in real life who has an AP and didn’t know who ask. I here to get people’s opinions to help me in my decision making. I am new to this whole thing so definitely learning from what people are doing.[/quote]

Live and learn.  This AP isn't going to work out.  Part of that is you didn't establish any boundaries, and you got someone who is going to take advantage of that. Don't try to be the cool host family; lay out some house rules and AP responsibilities that are a little tougher than your actual non-negotiables.  It's always easier to loosen those than to tighten them up.  We had APs for more than 10 years.  None of them left because of having to work too hard, our (fairly strict) house rules, or our stipend (the minimum).   A couple didn't work out because they were lovesick for boyfriends they didn't admit to when they interviewed.  [/quote]

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