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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We had an au pair in 2019 who we really liked. She was with us for a year. We asked her to extend with us but she said no because she wanted a different experience. She extended with a local family who works for the government. I was a bit hurt but understood.

Because of COVID, our next au pair couldn't come and we spend a year scrambling for childcare. We kept in touch with her and have a great relation. She stayed in the area and I was her reference for some nanny jobs she got after finishing her year with her other family. I got a lot of calls from families who wanted to hire her.
I also tried to hire her as an after-school nanny but she said no because she preferred a full-time job so she can make a lot of money for her studies. She tries to visit the kids for their birthday, brings presents for the kids (we also sent presents) and is a nice person and my family loves her.

She texted me that she want to apply for a Master's and if I can sponsor her. She says she has the money but just needs an American sponsor on the paper. [b]Her most recent family works for the government and can't sponsor her. She tells me a lot of HF do that and that is no risk for me.
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To be honest I am uncomfortable with the idea for many reasons. I know a lot of families do that, but they usually take risks because they are getting some childcare in return. Why would I take so much risk? Also, I am a bit bitter she rejected us twice!! If she would have stayed with us or was still working for us I could have convinced myself to take the risk but right now I find her casual demand a bit too much. I guess I encouraged her by being her reference for all thise jobs she was applying for. Btw we paid her to babysit for us once since she left. She is kind of my backup babysitter but I have a lot of other options. I asked her to babysit because I knew she needed the money and the kids would love to see her.

By the way, he claims that according to her lawyer there is no risk for me because I don't work for the government, it is really the only risk?

WWYD?[/quote]

You got your answer right there.[/quote]

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