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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will.  I just hope this year works out.  I am just surprised that she apparently has not absorbed what we have said multiple times.  
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It might be a mismatch. There are tons of families looking some are more supportive emotionally of their au pairs than others. Some host families are really for [b]young women of color than they can lock under the stairs and control body, mind, and soul, [/b]and others really get the cultural exchange component and understand that most APs are adult women. I would try to rematch for someone more interested in the throwback indentured servant experience. [/quote]

your racism is showing right there.  what makes you think all HFs are White?

You sound like an entitled Karen.  This is not about supporting emotionally.  We are in a god damn pandemic. [/quote]

Well, your use of "Karen" shows that you are a racist and a sexist: yikes. (taking a moment to pray you don't have daughters).

I am not white.  :oops: I know several AP families (other AAs and white HFs) that deliberately seek out women from poor families from Brazil and Colombia because they do not want "princesses" and then barely buy them enough food to eat or care whether they have warm clothes in the winter. We all know bad HFs. Let's not pretend that there are not HFs taking advantage of au pairs and using the pandemic as an excuse.  :roll: Hopefully, your AP will go into rematch soon. [/quote]

How sweet of you to pray for me  :roll:

I will pray you all don't get COVID as you try to be the "cool HF"[/quote]

I was praying for your daughters (and hoping you don't have any). We were social distancing before it was cool, and our AP is a homebody who has travelled twice, safely, over the summer in a car we rented for her. But yes, if being a cool host parent means making sure that the AP has food, warm clothes, access to dental/medical care, educational access, and a HF that cares about her as an adult woman entitled to make choices for herself as an adult woman, we plead guilty. HFs who abuse their au pairs (and the system) are a disgrace.[b] If there is a lockdown, then the HF and the AP must obey that laws of the lockdown. If there is not a lockdown, you shouldn't seek control the AP in a way that you would not be able to get away with with a nanny or babysitter. [[/b]/quote]

Most AP agencies make it clear that each family has specific rules regarding the pandemic.  Shame you can't see that[/quote]

Shame on you for seeking a slave and imposing restrictions on adult woman that you would not foist upon a niece. [/quote

Is this the bitter nanny again? Just ignire[/quote]

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