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[quote=Anonymous]1. No requests.  No please or thank you attached to the task.

“Larla, were going to clean out the car.”

2. Model manners as you state each individual step.  Offer choices you can tolerate.

“Please turn off the tv, or hand me the remote.  Do you want to race to the car or twirl like a ballerina?”

Note that the choices did not include leaving the tv on or not going to the car.  The child in the OP is only 5.  Give plenty of smaller choices, plenty of agency, and you’re more likely to get compliance.

3. Praise effort, following directions and using manners.  Ignore refusals and rude/hurtful comments.  Remind a child who whines or cries (to get out of a task, NOT a child who is overstimulated!) that you can’t understand them, but you’re happy to listen when they can speak clearly.

“Thank you for turning off the tv, kiddle.  I think I’m going to get to the car first.  What do you think?  Can you get there first?”

4. Make routine as smooth as possible.  As you pull onto their block, remind them to carry specific items into the house.  Only have necessary items in the car, unless they’re stored in a bag.  Make cleaning out the car easier by having each child check to see if anyone else forgot something.  (At least once per week, “forget” something small, so they keep checking!

The most important thing is to understand that young children need clear, simple directions to break down large tasks.  Clean your room and clean the car are too karate and vague.  Turn undesirable tasks into a desirable when/then.

“Your room needs to be cleaned.  There are several steps.  Put your dirty clothes in the hamper.  Put your clean clothes back in your drawers or hang them in the closet.  Put all of your jewelry in the box on your dresser.  Put all of your books back on the shelf, either standing up or stacked neatly.  Make your bed and it your time upload back at the top/head of the bed.  Your art supplies will be back in the box under your bed.  Your hard toys will be back in the box and dolls and stuffed animals will be on your bed.  Make sure that your floor is clear of all items that have another home.  I will be right out in the hall if you need help coeAning was r remembering the steps.”[/quote]

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