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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is all so hard. I understand that our au pair is going crazy from being in the house for almost the last 2 months, which is not what she signed up for.

At the same time, our family is complying with the stay at home order.

[b]If she went out to hang out with friends and got my children sick, I would never be able to forgive myself for my lapse in judgement.

We need an au pair, but I’m willing to pause the program if it comes down to watching putting my children at risk :(.
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We may let her pick a friend who is also social distancing,!/9 that they can hang out 1:1.

FYI there are a lot of au pairs who are still hanging out in groups and not social distancing. Just make sure that you’re aware of the risks in case he/she accidentally brings the illness home :(.[/quote]

This exactly.  Our stay at home orders have been lifted, and our AP is out "social distancing" almost every night.  I'd love to trust that she's actually doing it, but who knows.

Bottom line is that we are incredibly uncomfortable with it, and might have to part ways.  I can't risk my family's health.  [/quote]

You should let the AP go so she can find a more emotionally stable/less exploitative HF. [/quote]

NP. Why so nasty, PP? My house, my rules. If any AP is not comfortable if my rules, they are welcome to rematch. To the poster who is thinking about letting the AP go, your AP won't have troubles rematching, given how many au pairs have left. At the same time, if was not clear from your post of your AP knows that you are uncomfortable with her going out. [/quote]

I’m the pp— at least I think I am!   I assume she knows why she can’t see her boyfriend — it’s because he is not social distancing, it’s not because of the order.    In fact we had a chat with her about this the weekend before there even was an order.   So that’s why I’m saying she has some magical thinking that when the order is lifted all will be ok.  And at the time of our initial chat I suggested she rematch if she wants to find a family with different rules.  I gave her two days to think about it and she said no she doesn’t want to rematch because (honestly I’m not sure why I didn’t get a coherent answer).   Anyway if worse comes to worse I suppose she can just go live at her boyfriends for the last few weeks after June 8.  We’ll continue to pay her as a bonus for work done (and to comply with the program).  Well be fair but we’re not risking our health over her.  [/quote]

Either way she would be a more stable environment b/c she would be outside of the “AP=indentured servitude” environment. She has 30 days after the end of her term - so you can’t ruin that for her as much as it seems you want to. But, yep, you will likely be flagged as a problem family. [/quote]

So we aren’t required to House her during the travel month. No host family is.  And also we are done with the au pair program.   No problem family here.   And Like the other posters have said— nobody is forcing a host family to continue with the program if they don’t feel it’s safe.   Both sides have an opportunity to quit.  Unfortunately for our au pair this is the end of her two years but yeah we didn’t bring on the pandemic ourselves.  .   [/quote]

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