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[quote=Anonymous]HM here, who also had nannies for many years. I agree she is mediocre, but I don’t know if a random rematch AP will be THAT much better.

- You have high expectations and difficult kids ages (3.5 yr old still needs a lot support/fun games/supervision, and a 9 months old needs caregiver focus). Did you show how to engage with both of them at the same time when both are awake? I can totally see that she hugs/carries the baby on the hip when 3.5 yr all is throwing a temper tantrum... don’t assume she knows how to Handle this.

- write a schedule to address “outside” activities but be reasonable. Where exactly you want AP to take them? When? The 3.5 yr old presumably gets ~30 min outside in pre-school with friends. After they come home and nap, does AP have time to pack 2 kids before dark? Do they have specific location to go and how she needs to watch two kids there (9 mo old in stroller? Climbing?).

- I don’t know, but I think APs are more babysitters with small kids... if you want them to do chores tell them, give them a list... Yes, there are probably unicorns with the small kids, but I think it is more of “make sure kids are fed and alive and have fun”, not a huge check list is done...
- two times late in 5 months is nothing

I would be very prescriptive (yes, it is a pain) and really help AP in how to manage two kids of those ages. It is hard to do that for 45 hrs/week... APs are not professionals, they are helpers. [/quote]

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