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[quote=Anonymous]AP did not disclose endometriosis during matching (our agency form asks: "Are you currently taking any medication or receiving any medical treatment that will require medical attention during your time as an au pair?" and "Do you have any other health problems or require any special medical treatment? If you do have any issues with your health, it is important you tell us now" She responded "No." She claims that the in-country agency rep basically filled out the form and wrote her essay, so she's not responsible for it. She has been diagnosed for a couple years. Since she has been here (five months), she has taken two sick days, one for endo pain. This morning, before the start of her shift, she texted to say that she had not slept well and did not feel well. I recommended some home remedies and asked if she wanted to go to the hospital. She said no. After 30 minutes, I texted to ask when she was coming upstairs and she lashed out at me that I would expect her to work (personal digs), and that of course she needed a sick day. I told her I would take her to the hospital and then she responded angrily that she would work. I am single parent and never ever take sick days, and I have multiple friends and family members with endo, so it's not that I am unsympathetic, it's just I am used to working on little sleep, in pain, mildly ill, etc. - and more importantly have little ability to flex around chronic pain flare-ups. I also am frustrated at her inability to ask (I speak her native language fluently) in a way that I could work with. For example, if she said, "I do not feel well, is there a way I could sleep until X - or is there a way I could have a few hours off to try to sleep," I could try to work with that. I cannot work with someone putting me in the position of having to assume what she wants. I cannot assume if she is texting me that she doesn't feel well that she wants the entire day off. Or, even if I could assume that, I would respond better if she took ownership over the fact that her asking for the day off would mean that I would be losing a day's worth of work. So frustrating. 
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