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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Looking for advice.

I am in a nanny share for my 7mo old son with one other family (friends with one other boy). I have had a lot of trust issues since the beginning and have chalked a lot of these up to being a new mom. My husband and I both work full time, as do the other parents. She initially mentioned she would go back and forth between the 2 houses, would do light cleaning and occasional cooking. I have been thinking she was mostly at the other house, but now realize that she is not. Truth is, I’m ashamed to say, I have no idea where she is during the day. Twice a week she tells me she takes the boys to the library, but i have never seen a picture of them in the library. She will often report being at the park, but the time she leaves to when she returns is nearly 5 hours. My son doesn’t like to be in one place for that long so it seems unusual. I’ve asked her multiple times to let me know BEFORE she goes somewhere, the location that she’ll be at. She has started sending more pictures recently, but usually after the fact, or only at the beginning/end of the day or close ups of their faces.

My husband and both other parents love her. My husband says I’m crazy. My mom and his mom both validated my feelings recently and told me to fire her ASAP.  I’ve interviewed daycares, and would like to move him there.  My husband wants to give her another try.

Question 1. Would it be unreasonable to ask her to keep a GPS on my son so I know where he is, especially considering she can’t seem to tell me during the day? What about turning on “find my friend” on her phone while at work and turning it off when she’s home.

Question 2. What are the benefits of nanny over daycare? Right now all I can see is double the cost for double the headache/anxiety.

Question 2. We signed a contract agreeing to a year together. My nanny also requested to be paid under the table, which I think makes this contract somewhat void, especially if I’m considering my son’s safety. If we decide to move him to daycare, do I give her 2 weeks notice or just pay her 2 weeks severance and cut ties?

Thank you for any help![/quote]

On the one hand, I would hate to have a tracker on me as a nanny.
On the other hand, especially when at a new job, I am very reliable when it comes to texting parents. Especially with a new family, I had zero issue sending multiple texts about when we left/arrived places. And I sent multiple photos daily.

It genuinely sounds like daycare would be a better fit for you. Or just...a better nanny. This one doesn't sound good, much less great. [/quote]

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