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[quote=Anonymous]This sounds so much like our situation from a few months ago.  We were first time host parents, too, and we had a lot of the same issues.  Our AP turned out to be a terrible driver (she got into 2 car accidents within the first 2 months) and we just did not feel comfortable with her driving the kids.  We were also really surprised by her immaturity.  Much like what you described, she could not make any decision on her own and we had to tell her exactly what to do all the time.  This was a big problem with young kids where you cannot predict everything that is going to happen.

Since we were inexperienced, we just kind of worked through it.  We knew we made a commitment to the AP and we thought that we could tough it out.  Well, it turned it that we were very wrong!

Things just got worse, there was resentment, she got worse and worse with the kids.  Things eventually blew up at about 4 months and by that time, we were just too far gone to fix it and we ended up in rematch.

Based on my mistakes, I would recommend two things.  First - do not let anyone pressure you into doing something you are uncomfortable with.  It is great that you are serious about your commitment to your AP, but never forget that you are the mom and these are your kids.  If your are uncomfortable with something, don’t do it.  You will just get resentful and be stressed all the time.

Second, maybe you should reach out to your LCC and request a mediation.  It may seem like the issues that your are having are small, but having a chance to talk seriously about things before things get bad may be what you need to save this relationship.  Looking back, in my situation, I think that taking things more seriously early on may have helped to save things.

I would also recommend doing weekly meeting.

Anyway, just a few thoughts made in hindsight based on my failed experience.  Good luck with everything - it sounds like your are a really caring mom and HM!  [/quote]

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