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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it would be pretty difficult for a transgendered au pair.  First off, I think this is something that should definitely be disclosed to host families, which might seriously reduce their chances of getting selected.  Secondly, it is already hard enough for an AP to move to a new country and make friends and find their way.  I think that being transgendered would only make this more difficult.[/quote]

Why should this be disclosed? In what way do the genitals of an AP impact the host family? If you select an AP who identifies as a woman, do you ask to see her vulva for confirmation?
 And why the assumption that trans people automatically have a harder time making friends and going through life? Please check your biases, of which there seem to be several. [/quote]

The whole process of transitioning is filled with medical and mental health pitfalls if not handled well.  Having an AP here who felt isolated on top of transitioning could be a precursor of rematch or going home early.[/quote]

Right. We hear consistently from TG people how emotionally devastating it is. I wish them peace.  But a family has to be careful about taking in a person who is far away from home without a support network. [/quote]

Exactly.  You are agreeing to be the primary support system for your AP.  So just like if they had a medical condition that required a lot of doctor appointments and medications, a mature AP would be open with the host family and have a plan in place for accessing medical care.  If a TG woman is post-op, she may physically need consistent access to hormones—does she know what the AP insurance covers?  If not, what is her plan to find and afford access to what she needs?  Especially if they are still transitioning, they may be in very active therapy for mental health challenges that are more common for TG people.  Does she know how she is going to access that?  If an AP had IBS or an anxiety disorder I would likewise want to know what their plan was for managing their own care and anything less than a well-thought-out, detailed plan would be a red flag.[/quote]

This.  An AP is supposed to be an adult.  A responsible adult will research and start figuring things out before starting to interview with families.  It doesn’t matter whether it’s mental health (adhd, anxiety), physical health (diabetes, asthma) or a combination (transition, recent diagnosis with ANYTHING chronic).[/quote]

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