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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I understand your dilemma, but don’t do it. Yes, AP will agree, but it might impact your relationship. It will underscore that it is your house, and AP is just a “guest” there.  You say AP quarters are “apartment”. If there is a separate living/sitting/game room there that currently primarily used by AP (in addition to her private bedroom), putting a mattress on the floor there is a fair game. Depending on how the space is organized people on that mattress might get access to APs bathroom. Also putting a mattress in the family/living room of the house should be fine.

Many years ago, my husband and I visited my aunt with a baby. They invited us. To make room for us she made her adult son (my cousin) move into their home office (that had a sofa bed). I did not realize that arrangement until we arrived. I never was close to my cousin, but it was extremely uncomfortable for me, the entire stay, and talking to the cousin at breakfasts/meals. I felt like I was intruding on him, as he was not part of the decision to invite us. And that was only 2 days!

You can afford childcare. Your house might not be big enough to host 4 extra people comfortably for 2 weeks. “Comfortably” is a key word here. There is no shame in that. It is a lot of extra people to host for a long time. After that incident with my aunt I never stay at relatives home when I travel (there are 5 or 6 of us now depending if you count AP), and yes that scaled down amount of traveling we do.

In general: you reduce comfort for traveling people and people who made decision that the travel happens. You don’t reduce comfort of adults that are not part of the decision making.

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