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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for the responses. First off, I do think my nanny deserves severance even though it has been just two weeks so we will definitely give her that.

It’s not just that we don’t like her personality, I think we just are not aligned fundamentally on some parenting and schedule related things and while she says she will defer to what we want, she then kind of makes us feel like we don’t know what we are doing and she is the expert.

I actually do like her personally, I just don’t think she is exactly what we wanted in a nanny now that we have had her on the job for a couple weeks.[/quote]

You sound unreasonable. Neither of your are experts.  Do you really want someone who only does it your way, even if its not the best way for your child?  You don't sound like you know what you are doing. [/quote]

I am happy to compromise on some things but others are non-negotiable. For example, the baby has acid reflux and is on medicine. Our nanny keeps making comments about how the medicines don't work and are bad, and that we should just be thickening her bottles with rice cereal. We are going to defer to the doctor on this one and give the medicine. The doctor does not recommend adding cereal to her bottles. Nanny gives the medicine but just keeps making the comments.

She is also trying to push the baby's wake times to get her onto 2 naps and I feel it's a bit early for that (baby is 4.5 months). She says she does this with all the kids she works with and it's a great schedule - and I do agree I would prefer 2 long naps vs. 3-4 short naps all over the place - but everything I read says 3 or 4 naps are developmentally appropriate at this age. The result is that the baby is really cranky and overtired when I get home from work every night and I have to put her right to bed at 6pm... which means I get no time with her and the time I do get is pretty miserable.[/quote]

My daughter had the worst acid reflux, she would just cry and cry... none of the medication we tried worked.

It was such a horrible, helpless feeling knowing that I couldn't do anything to help her.  I asked our pharmacists if he knew anything that would help & he said that adding cereal to her bottle was a tried and true method that had been around for at least the past 50 years that he'd been a pharmacist (he also agreed that none of the meds work).

Like you, I called the doctor to ask & our ped told us that it was an old wives tale & to keep trying with the meds.  So, that's what we did.

One night she was crying/screaming & I just started crying with her.  My poor baby was miserable and I felt like a worthless mother because I couldn't bring her some relief. 
So in sheer desperation, I drove to Giant at 2am to buy three dang cereal.

I asked the pharmacist how much to put in her bottle (thank you Giant, for not only having your store open 24 hours, but also having your pharmacy open 24 hours!) and I tried it three next time she was ready to feed.

The change was immediate. 
She'd normally start crying within a half hour of being fed (and I sit in wait for her to cry in desperate anxiety) a cry which NEVER came!

I couldn't believe it. 
Six months of screaming, day in and day out and all it took was a little freaking cereal in her bottle!

On Monday morning I called the ped and couldn't believe she repeated back to me that it was sm old wives tale!  Me, who had gotten a good night's sleep for the first time in 6 months, she was telling that it was an old wives tale... Me, the person who could actually take their baby to the park & to a playdate and didn't have to worry about rushing home or screaming, she told it was an old wives tale!  That offended me.

I switched ped's that day and have been with the same one for 8 years and love the practice.

OP, maybe your baby has other health concerns that you haven't told us, but adding a little cereal to a bottle at 5 months is NOT going to hurt the baby.

I hated trying/giving meds every day to a little baby anyway, but I would have if I saw results... but I didn't. The cereal worked wonders, plus it worked for my 3 other kids that followed, all who had acid reflux too.

I think the nanny deserves a "coming to Jesus" sit down with you before just firing her, if she knows her job is in jeopardy she may reserve those comments for herself.  Im sure she just thought she was being helpful.

Sitting down and talking to her before letting her go and giving her a chance to change her behavior is the absolute LEAST you can do.

If you dont talk to her/ mgive her a chance, you're just a coward.

Can you imagine if YOUR job didn't give you a change to either explain yourself, try and make things better or give you a second chance?
That would be a pretty horrible organization to work for, huh?[/quote]

You should have gone to a pediatric GI NOT a pediatrician.   Its ok at 6 months to do cereal on a spoon but not bottle.[/quote]

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