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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can see by the responses that people are seriously off their rockers when it comes to household contributions.  I don't know why people- host families included- put the APs on such a pedestal but yet it happens. 
My AP's one household job - "member of the family" role- is to take care of the dishes in the dishwasher that takes about 10 minutes or less to load and unload. That includes mine and my husband's (although we eat 2 meals out of the home, so our dishes are nothing).  
My own household contributions-  that include the AP- I cook her every dinner unless I am treating her to a restaurant meal, I clean up the entire kitchen before and after I make these meals - including wiping off the counters that she always leaves messy 
after making other meals during the day. I wash the table, I set the table.  (The kids do much of this but are young so not very well and I go behind them).   I go to the store to bring home all the food and sundry items that she eats or uses.   I pay for the cleaning lady to vacuum and deep clean her room along with the rest of the house.  I vacuum the floors if needed between weekly housekeeper visits.  I pick up the constant clutter - kid or otherwise.  I do myself, or pay for the yard care. I am constantly putting away things in every room of the house. I do all of the pet care- and yes, I completely realize that this is not an AP job which is why I do it, but of course during interviews she assured us that she loved pets and hoped she could be involved in their care. She sure loves the fun part of having pets, just doesn't want to lift a finger when it comes to caring for them.  My husband takes out all of her trash along with ours, we provide the care for her provided car.  The home and yard she is living in is completely cleaned and maintained -either physically or financially- by 2 people with full time jobs and the children who make their own contribution , and she comfortably sits on her ass after being scheduled 20-30 hours a week, avoiding the one thing that she is asked to do as a member of the family.   
It is definitely the case that when APs are looking for families to be a "member" of, they mean they want to join for free to all the movies, vacations, outings, restaurants, theme parks.... they want to be left out of nothing- except the contributions which suddenly upend the whole thing making them "slaves".  I know some families are lucky enough to have an AP who notices all the efforts the family goes to for them to feel at home, and those APs are found vacuuming,   cooking meals for the entire FAMILY,  making the HM a mother's day or birthday card. It is sad that the FB groups for APs are more about how to be a good aupair who families want to provide bonuses too and less about how they are slaves if they put away a glass used by the host dad. [/quote]

Correction that should be at the end:   It is sad that the FB groups are NOT more about how to be a good aupair.... [/quote]

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