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[quote=Anonymous]So $30/day is definitely underpaid, but it sounds like you are doing this more as a favor than for the money, in the sense that even if she doubled the rate so it’s like an in home daycare (which is the more appropriate comparison for this arrangement than nanny rates for 1:1 care in her house), you wouldn’t be happy since you are still unable to properly care for your own kids.
One solution is to keep doing the favor but talk to your friend about what you need to continue making it work: driving to pick up your kid, babywearing so you can do things around the house, sleep training so the baby at least doesn’t need to be held for naps?
Another solution is to stop doing the favor. Who takes care of the baby on other days? Can the dad or one of her relatives do it? Can she afford a day care? It sounds like your friend came to you for help because she had to go back to work at 6 weeks, and that was a really nice thing you did so she didn’t have to send such a tiny baby to daycare, when the baby probably doesn’t have any immunizations yet and her need for 1:1 attention is greater than what a daycare can provide. But as the baby gets older that is less of an issue, so you could tell your friend this favor is time limited and for the sake of your family, you’ll need to wind things down at 6 months  or whatever timeline you feel comfortable with.[/quote]

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