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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If she is staying with you, then maybe a gift certificate to a spa, nice bottle of wine, gourmet food/dessert, gift certificate to a nice restaurant, an extra vacation day (paired with the spa would be lovely), etc. When she leaves permanently, it is customary to give a week’s pay for every year worked. [/quote]

So if she's with us for 5 years, we need to give her $5K? Ouch... we're pretty stretched with preschool and nanny cost.  [/quote]

She gave you peace of mind and excellent care of your child for five years.  This is worth a million dollars!  Give up your daily Starbucks and vacation.  She EARNED this.[/quote]

There IS no daily Starbucks and we haven't had a vacation since we had kids. All our money goes to bills. The money would have to be a 401K loan or something.

This actually makes me think maybe we need to let her go next year and not in 2 years, so that we can afford her severance. [/quote]

Sure.  Daycare is fine.  You sound like a typical daycare parent.  If your nanny is that great, she’ll have no trouble finding another job.

BTW, I don’t agree with the severance posted above but I loathe your threats and have completely changed my previously good opinion of you.  [/quote]

These aren't "threats" - who am I threatening? This is an anonymous forum. I want to do right by my excellent nanny. If we have to take out a 401K loan to do right by her, then we clearly can't afford to keep her as long as we planned! We are already stretched thin.

Deep breaths, ok? I don't really care what you like or "loathe". Not even going to dignify the "daycare parent" thing. You need anger management. [/quote]

NP here and yes you made definite threats.  You threatened to let your nanny go a year earlier because you didn’t like the severance one person suggested.  As if that would scare her.  A good nanny can always find a better job.

And what would you do with your baby when you let your nanny go a year early except daycare?

Honestly your rebuttal bugged me too and I’m an MB.  [/quote]

I'm confused by this "scare" and "threaten" thing. I've never had this conversation with my nanny and don't plan on having it. I didn't even realize the expectation of a week's pay for every year severance thing until I started this thread yesterday. So how could I possibly be threatening someone? If we can't afford to give our nanny a proper severance, I would rather let her go a little early when it's still in the realm of affordable, and end the relationship on a good note, rather than give her less than she deserves and offend her. I don't know why everyone is up in arms.

Sorry, I'm not one of those people who demonizes daycare. I see nothing wrong with it. So "typical daycare parent" isn't an insult to me, even though PP and you mean it as one. [/quote]

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