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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ask you LCC (if they're a decent one) for a mediation meeting.

Be diplomatic about wanting "AP to meet friends and get the most out of her American experience."

We had an introvert that basically stayed home all weekend, washed her hair, and did laundry. Our LCC told her she now had to get out once a weekend and LCC would ask her what she did recently at the next cluster meeting. LCC also gave her a list of suggestions of stuff to do (like websites to look for events in DC, etc.)

8 months is a looooong time to have your AP drive you nuts.[/quote]

They told her she HAD to leave the house? That’s terrible![/quote]

LCC look for flags of depression and this is one of them. So, yeah, encouraging them to get out, asking another AP to call and make plans (even if they're not close) ... [/quote]

Yes, LCC told her she had to leave. It was still up to AP on whether it was just for a walk, going to the Starbucks or grocery store within a 1mi walk, or actually doing something like going into DC. Otherwise, she basically stayed in her room all weekend long and only came out to go to the bathroom or do some laundry. She didn't even spend time in the kitchen making meals or getting herself things to eat unless she was waiting until we were gone. So no, this was not healthy behavior. It took her 6 months until she found a friend from her home country and started going out more. If we had known that all she needed was someone from her country (which is not a big AP country) rather than trying to get her to do things with other APs in the cluster or other APs from her continental region, we would have searched until we found one to set her up with in her first month....[/quote]

Sounds like our 1st AP.  She waited for us to leave in the am before coming upstairs to eat breakfast and went to her room the very second she was off the clock.  Made one friend the entire time she was with us.  We muddled through the year but now we look for APs who are more extroverted.
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If they are hiding in their room, maybe you have said or done something to make them uncomfortable. How sad for her she feels she can only eat or be in other areas of the house when you are gone.[/quote]

And how sad for us.  We tried EVERYTHING we could to connect with our AP but she just preferred solitude.  As proof, she went to another family for her 2nd year and flamed out there after 5 months.
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