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[quote=Anonymous]I would hire someone to work every week. It's much easier to get into and stay in a pattern that way. It is what healthy people expect to do. 
If you are meeting nannies cold, they may wonder what you are hiding because the schedule you are proposing sounds so strange.  Even if you tell them the situation, the good employees will want to work everyday. The bad ones will love your schedule because it gives them time to do whatever it is that makes them seek out an oddball schedule where they aren't expected to come to work every week. First it will be "I'm sorry, did I have to work this week?" "then "I'm fighting with my boyfriend, can I just... um... work next week?" then "My family needs me, you don't mind if I just don't show up this week, I promise I'll come next week". You want to treat this like a professional job where your employees are expected to be there everyday even if your kid isn't.

If I were you, I would offer a nanny a position with 45 hours each week. One week can be childcare, the other can be things for you, making sure the fridge is stocked, the pantry is organized, tossing expired items, making sure you have diapers and clothes that fit properly, shopping for these items, discarding broken or outgrown toys, researching activities your child might enjoy... basically all the same things stay at home moms do minus the providing you sex. 
Realize too that your separated status may scare women. I would be afraid you'd hit on me, or be so angry at your ex you'd take it out on me, maybe not physically, but you'd yell or act in a manner that would make me uncomfortable if I was with you behind closed doors. Things like "Damn it, Jill Sally never scrubbed the kitchen sink, can't you at least shove this shit down the disposal and turn it on!" Every man says they'd never treat the nanny this way, and most probably mean it, but sometimes we all forget that the person we are dealing with isn't our spouse, brother, sister... whoever. These are things women do have to think about. Lots of things are funny or tolerable when you work in an office with lots of people around. It's much much scarier when it's behind closed doors, even if there isn't a hint of sexual impropriety and truly is a man coming home in a bad mood. I'd also be worried that I might be blamed if your ex came back to the house to get something. The nanny shouldn't be expected to keep the ex out of the house. That's something you need to do with the police and court orders, and only if the house isn't property she legally owns. I'd be worried you'd say "Sally may stop by, if she does just don't let her in, ok?" and then dash out the door. No nanny wants to go up against a pissed off ex-wife who could either hurt her physically, or worse yet, accuse her of molesting or abusing your child. Along with an every week schedule, you need to convey to the nanny that you won't ask her to do anything "above her paygrade" as I like to say.    Part of that is making sure you live in an environment and have such a relationship where the ex can't or won't threaten her. 
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