Reply to Au Pair dating life

Forum Index » Au Pair Discussion

Reply to "Au Pair dating life"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hopefully au pairs read this forum and learn to hide their private lives. I’ve been with my nanny family for 9 years and they know NOTHING about my private life. Blocked on all social media and change the subject when personal questions come up. The family stopped asking years ago. [/quote]

But (and I am saying this as an exAP), you are living on your own and the family you work for is not responsible for your well being in your time off. APs are living with a host family, as part of an exchange program, in a foreign country. They might be adults (at least on paper) but their parents expect their host parents to care for them and to keep them safe. Imagine OP's AP got hurt, assaulted, raped, killed while on a one night stand / Tinder date. How would the HF tell her parents that they were aware of her risky behaviour but didn't talk to her about it? I am not saying AP can't go on Tinder dates or sleep with whomever she wants (though she might not want to rely on condoms alone but go on the pill or get an implant or any other type of additional protection) but she might need to hear how to do all this in the safest way possible.

Plus, if the AP doesn't seem to have TMI boundaries... who knows which information she might be giving out to the guys she meets? I take it you are not a live-in nanny so all information you give out is your own - it's your phone number, it's your address, it's your license plate number. You are driving your car, it's your phone. AP lives with her HF. It's their address she may be giving out to stangers. It's to their house she may be followed by a lunatic. It's their privacy she may be putting out there. For you it's yours. The chance of you (obviously being a private person) telling a one-night stand where your nanny family lives, what they do for a living, how many cars they have, how much money they make etc. is much lower than for somebody without a privacy filter, living in a house that is not theirs.

It's good that she is sharing her location with her friends. OP, do you think she'd be willing to tell you which friend she is sharing that information with and provide you with their phone number? Just in case she doesn't show up for work in the morning and you can't reach her by phone?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics