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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have just started interviewing au pairs (over email), and one seems nice, but I feel like setting up way too many boundaries at this very early stage.  For instance, she replied to an email and within it stated that she is happy to help out extra, as long as we don't go over hours and that we give her notice.   I never asked her to help out extra--we aren't even there yet! We are a rule following family so I am just put off by this.  Any thoughts?[/quote]

Yes, smart AP to set her rules from the beginning. Good for her!
Why do you think only the family can set up boundaries at an early stage? Or why should it be solely on the family to decide when the time is right to set a boundary or ask a question? To this AP it's obviously important that her HF shows her some respect by not going over hours and by giving notice if her schedule changes. There is nothing wrong about mentioning that at an early stage before both sides waste time and energy on multiple emails. This is obviously important to her. Better to state this now than to spend hours on something that falls through because HF doesn't want to stick to the rules.

Pass up on this one and giver her the chance to find a family that suits her personality better. One that doesn't mind if AP also considers this her year and wants to make sure to get her bases covered before she invests herself into a match that may not work out for her.[/quote]

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