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[quote=Anonymous]You could try to address it OP.

Our first nanny did some things like what you're discussing.  There were times when she talked about taking care of our kids in ways that really made it sound like (or made me feel like) she thought she would take better care of them than we would.  And she would show scorn for things we did, or whatever...

I talked to her about it directly.  She could tell I was upset, she felt badly, she stopped.  I also learned not to take things so personally, to not let her little comments bother me so much, etc...

We decided that the challenge of trying to find another nanny who had so many of the wonderful qualities and level of experience we wanted was more daunting than finding a way to work with the nanny we had - who we trusted and who really loved and took great care of our kids.

We have had two nannies since then.  Every one of the three nannies has been great, and every one of them has done some things we really loved and some that drove us crazy.  So you won't find perfect.  The trick is to find someone you trust, who provides the kind of care you want (and will do as you ask), someone with whom you can communicate effective, someone who is reliable, and someone you can afford.  If all of those things are generally true w/ your current nanny then I would try to make it work.

It is possible to say to someone "Hey Jane, you know, when you correct me so frequently it makes me feel crummy.  I may not do things perfectly, or the way you would do them, but perhaps you could keep those observations to yourself?"  Then see what she does.  If she's smart she will be chastened and she will rein it in.  If you're lucky, she'll apologize, you'll clear the air, and the two of you can move past it.

Good luck.[/quote]

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