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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had to bump this post. I'm truly exhausted, and my body is starting to feel the toll of constantly being on and stressed over what else to I need to address before the day has ended.

We're in year 4. Our first 2 au pairs (1 extended) were super independent. Which was good - and not so good. Good in that when they were done working, I could come home have a few moments with my kids alone, and then be able to unwind after I put them down for bed. Not so good, in the case of 1 of them, that when we had big family events, and had them there, they seemed to feel so awkward and not comfortable - despite our regular talks, and time spent together when working.

Our new au pair needs a lot of attention, and I'm hoping it will fade. But, I'm concerned that despite me being really clear about needing quiet time after work - or needing one on one time with the kids, she still interrupts that. She's even turned down plans with new friends, so she can stay home and watch a movie with us. And this is after multiple snow days at home, us all together, watching movie after movie. I need a break to recharge, and to be rested enough to there for her, my kids, and my coworkers. I've been so drained, and in horrible mood all week because I haven't had a minute alone.[/quote]

How long has your AP been here? My experience has been that APs spend a lot of time with us at the beginning and very little at the end.

I am sorry that you are exhausted, and I mean this in a best way possible, but are you sure this is the right program for you? I am en extrovert, and although I work hard, I am always happy to see my AP when I come home. I am happy if she joins us for a movie night or a family outing. We had an AP, who did not miss a single weekly family dinner with my parents, and I loved that about her. I love developing close relationships with these wonderful young women, to watch them mature during their time with us, and to stay in touch with them after they go home.

The idea of putting on a headset and to pretending to be on the conf call is just horrid. Sorry.

At the same time, I have no problems telling my AP the truth that I had a hard day and that I will be heading to bed early.

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